Yes! We all hear stories about internet dating, I laughed at them along with my friends and never thought that I would be padding the keys a few months later.
10 years in Spain and at 47 years old I suddenly found myself alone and lonely, after a six year relationship with a woman and three of her children. We all believe ourselves to be good guys, I thought I was, still believe I am, but I was not interested in women, didn’t want to know them, got a bit down and went through the self awareness bit. Then I thought about dating on the internet. Wow ! Chat with people on-line, sounded interesting.
I tried the usual chat rooms, looked at some of the sleazy sites, usually American or UK based and then I found a site local to Spain. Where Hearts Meet. A great name, no sex connotations or anything cheesy. I wasn’t after Sex, just friends.

O.K. the registration process was very easy and then I came to fill in the profile. Ouch! A few words that seemed to take an eternity to fulfil. I looked at some of the other profiles, only to think how corny they were and wanted something original. I must have changed it ten times and eventually settled for telling the truth and being completely honest, didn’t want to use my real name in case friends started poking fun at me, as I was still keeping this a secret, just me, and then waited. I wasn’t able to put a photo on as I didn’t have a recent one, I waited and waited some more, only a few days, but thought I would like someone else to make the first move as I was a bit shy. Nothing happened, so I took the bull by the horns and had a look at some of the female profiles. How to begin…

I sent a few e mails …offline at first…to see if I got a response and thought that the fact that I did not have a photo on at this time would effect my chances. I chatted to a few women, trying to be as honest as I could, or dared be, as lies only come round and bite you in the butt !. Some were too far away to ever meet but I guess that gave them…and me, a bit of security, we would probably never meet and our paths would never cross.

Every time I got a response, Where Hearts Meet would send me an e.mail and I would be able to see who it was from and respond if I wanted to. I could also chat live direct from the Where Hearts Meet site, but wasn’t on live very often. I respected those that did, and chatted freely with them. It was great, felt like I had a country full of friends….and I still hadn’t been able to get a photo and they were all asking me for one… Had to do something about it.

But then….i started chatting to a woman who was not too far away, didn’t have her photo on the site either, which I thought was great because I believed that friendship should not be based on what someone looks like, and we got on really well.

Neither of us knew what the other looked like, and we decided to meet for a meal. Imagine what was going through my mind… No don’t….I was nervous and excited at the same time, determined to enjoy the evening and hope she did too. At first I thought I should try to impress her but decided against that, if this was just going to be a friend, she should know the real me, that way we would stay friends. It would not have mattered to me if she had been the ugliest duck on the pond. Yea! Yea! I hear you guys say, but really, it wouldn’t have mattered to me. I had found a new friend on Where Hearts Meet.

If it didn’t work out, there were more fish in the sea, as I hadn’t been on line long, just a few weeks and then only occasionally at the weekends and was still chatting to other people on the Where hearts Meet site and had even come across someone I knew as she had put her photograph on the site and used her real name! I did confess to her that it was me as I felt a little embarrassed that she had contacted me, not knowing who I was… as she was a friend of my ex…ooops!!

We met, my Where hearts Meet date and I, walking towards each other along a promenade, you have all seen the movie, where they start running towards each other from a distance…it didn’t happen, but as she came closer my grin got bigger and bigger, I must have looked like the proverbial Cheshire cat, and I kept grinning. She was gorgeous, the same age as me, same star sign, born in the same town in England, so I thought there was no hope.
We met a few more times, no funny business, just as friends and I loved it. Then two weeks later it happened. We were sat on the beach, soaking up the sun with a glass of champagne, when she looked at me with that questioning look and asked ‘Was it true what you said on the Where Hearts Meet site? ‘
Oh! Oh! Now I thought I was in real trouble, I racked my brains to remember, remember what it was that was questionable in her mind, not quite sure what she meant. She could see the bemused look on my face, then smiled at me and said, ‘ That you only wanted friendship?’.

I grinned with relief, relieved that it was something so innocent that I had neglected, not realising that she had paid specific attention to that minor detail, Then she turned and kissed me………before I had chance to say anything….

I’m very happy, so is she and we have not looked back, we see each other regularly now and are about to go on our first holiday as a couple…………

But beware boys, I nearly lost it all……. Her profile said she was looking for romance and relationship, I hadn’t even looked at that bit, so pay attention to the details and once you have found someone, let those that you have chatted with know you have found someone, thank them for chatting to you and enjoy your new found friendship on Where Hearts Meet, otherwise the girl you have met will become jealous that you are still on the site and it could ruin your chances of finding the love of you life. Fine, if the girl you meet understands and accepts that…… but would you……..honestly?

I have since put my Photo on line as my profile was accidentally wiped off and Where Hearts Meet contacted me almost immediately from there customer service section to apologise and requested that I re-apply my profile. I did, they put the photo’s on, and I had the opportunity to thank those that had chatted to me, let them know that I had found a lovely person to be with and they respected me for that. I’m Happy…You can be too…

Petrol. xx

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